For All Christian Ladies! Rant ALERT

I'm going on a big rant here, hang on...  OK, over the past few years.  I have approach Christian women that seemed that they were interested in me, I approached them, about either asking them out or was about to ask them out.  They all had boyfriends.  All of them seemed to be single, they all were sitting at church alone (or with other women).  There was no indication that they were in a relationship.  I had some of my brothers in Christ, did some light investigation and told me that they didn't see any indication that these Christian women were in a relationship. Please for the sake of your Brothers in Christ talk about your relationships if you have one.  I'm not sure if this is a Minnesota/Midwest thing.  One of them (NOT the most recent one), but there was one lady that seemed really interested in me.  I asked her out on a coffee date and she said, "that is fine, and just so you know I do have a boyfriend."  This was a couple of years ago.  I was getting advise from a good brother in Christ about the whole situation and encouraged me to ask this lady out.